5 Things New Social Media Taught Me

The impact and, perhaps, the breadth of new social media to every youth nowadays seem to be immeasurable. Aside from lifestyle change to technology habits, the aspects new social media have altered in our lives are also stretch to new disposition and thinking that add to our personal values and attitudes.

New social media contribute a lot to my life, I can say. Their contribution is not limited only to them making my life (err, academic life) convenient to the most possible extent. They have made me ponder on some things in life than ever. I know that some 5 to 10 years from now as I write this entry, I might be having different outlook from what I have now over various things. But when that day comes, I want to find myself looking at this list I made today on the nuggets of learning I got from new social media.

1. Friends are just a click away. And a click far away. I learned to value, cherish, and love relationships.

Before I used to say that it won’t change a thing if a friend of mine is not going to be ‘physically present’, for new social media will always give the bridge. But I was wrong. Relationships change. People change. They won’t miss you anymore or feel the excitement of talking to you. Cherish a relationship whatever it is.

2. New social media provide our ‘other half’.

No this isn’t about getting married or finding a mate. But indeed, finding yourself. The idea of our ‘real self’ and ‘ideal self’ contradicts in the real setting and new social media help us in self-discovery. Know how it feels to suddenly be able to post a status that cries your heart out? What about finding yourself motivated to do a change after seeing a photo of a friend?

3. A simple post speaks a thousand words of who we are.

I believe that even though vocal aspects of communication (voice, tone, intonation, pitch, etc.) are absent in new social media, one’s personality will always come out even just by a single post. I met a friend online who says that it feels like she has known me for 10 years just by us communicating via chat. And I feel the same way. See?

4. Being careful does not only imply security measure but an image and reputation measure.

It’s not about adding, accepting,or ignoring friend or follower requests. But what we say, and the meanings we communicate, once we are online. People’s judgments know no medium for they will always exist. We are posing an image of ourselves online through new social media. Once they are tainted with negativity, they just don’t stay online.

5. Maintaining a relationship is,perhaps, the hardest.

Communication makes a relationship going- whether it is between you and your boss, a friend, a family member, a classmate. But then, in every communication interaction is the uncertainty for that to happen again. It is up to us now how to make those people trust, believe, and find interest in us over time. Plus the image and reputation that we are taking good care of.

But then, new social media are now just opening doors for me. I know that as I become more active online each day, the more that I can have discoveries about this communication trend that shrinks the whole world in my fingertips.  I am now indebted to new social media, and the realizations I got from using it that I will always remember in life.


6 responses

  1. starrylines

    I love your quotes, Jodi! 😀

    “People’s judgments know no medium for they will always exist.”

    “But then, in every communication interaction is the uncertainty for that to happen again.”

    I so agree! People will always judge us. And I am also guilty of this. I sometimes find myself having opinions and impressions on a person based on how he or she presented himself or herself online. And you bet those judgments don’t just stay online but even when I already see them face-to-face! To those people managing their reputation online, they must be wary. However, to those people judging, they must also consider there’s more to those people than their online selves. And maintaining relationship among these people, if indeed they would want to, is I believe the hardest, too!

    September 28, 2010 at 11:04 AM

  2. This one’s a very interesting post Jody! It made me think of a few things that I’ve learned through my everyday use of New Social Media as well. On top of my list is, ” Share buttons can either be your best friend or your worst enemy”. Well, with your thoughts being available to a lot of people, one should be extra careful and not just of grammar errors that can irk grammar nazi friends but also of the message you are trying to convey through your posts. Anyway, I do believe that being aware of the power of New Social Media will guide us in deciding what to post and what not to post.

    September 30, 2010 at 6:04 PM

  3. Being one of United Kingdom’s top spies, 😉 no one knows about top secret and highly classified more than me. You can only imagine my agency’s hesitance against the use of the internet, especially social networking sites.

    Nonetheless, I highly oppose my agency’s banning of this one to us secret agents :))), because I believe that Social Networking Sites do provide that psychological therapy we need from all the stress and isolation we get while in the field.

    I know people hate it when others read, pervade and sometimes even influence our thoughts and even our emotions. I hate it when people know my whereabouts. But at the end of the day, we are all thinking people who have minds of our own. It’s all about using the internet wisely, choosing the right people to trust, being intelligent enough what to post and knowing who sees these posts and wisely sifting and judging which thoughts by some people will we let influence us, for the better.

    October 1, 2010 at 10:27 AM

  4. One thing that will never change no matter how our technology grows, I think, is how relationships between people operate. When we value people, we make an effort to talk to them, to listen to them, to touch them. A shift affected by the appearance of SNS on these relationships, I think, is how much we’ve grown more and more dependent on them to maintain our relationships and communication with people on our networks. It does work I think, but only to supplement the quality of the real world relationships that people have. Yet I also do think that the relationships we are able to maintain online and offline also have some bearing on each other. 🙂

    October 2, 2010 at 1:46 AM

  5. gj

    Number 5 nailed it. With all the ease, there now comes uncertainty. It’s usually quite frightening when everything’s so easy, too easy perhaps that maybe it would also be easy for a turn of events to just happen.

    October 2, 2010 at 11:30 PM

  6. i like your concept of image and reputation measuer. individuals and orgs alike need to assessment every once in a while. that way, keeping your image and reputation becomes a self- reflective process.

    October 3, 2010 at 12:10 AM

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